The Lazy Girl's Guide to Looking Good

How To: False Eyelashes

This week I did a tutorial on how to apply false eyelashes.  It started because I have tried multiple times to apply them, and have completely failed each time.  So finally I said “No More!” and like any person who wants to learn how to do something, I YouTubed it.  Then I made my own video.

You will need:

  1. Ardell Demi Wispies Lashes
  2. Duo Clear Lash Glue
  3. Tweezers

It’s best if you use tweezers, because trying to get the lashes perfectly positioned with your fingers is a nightmare, especially if you have starfish hands like me.  I like the Demo Wispies because they’re thick and long, but don’t make you look like a drag queen.  In fact, I’m confident they can be worn every day because I had multiple people ask me what mascara I use, and didn’t believe me when I told them they were falsies!! And naturally my lashes are terribly short, wimpy, and overall unimpressive. I would also recommend the Ardell Sweeties or Baby lashes, which look great for every day wear.  For an evening look, I plan on trying Ardell Runway Claudia lashes.

 

Remember: Middle, Inner corner, Outer corner.  Keep pressing in these three spots, grabbing the lashes with your tweezers and you will be good to go.  Also, when you pull them off, grab right on the eyelash band.  If you grab the ends of the lashes and rip them off, it will be painful.  Trust me.  :)

No Heat Curls

Since I did a tutorial on how to curl your hair with a curling iron, I figured I would also do a tutorial on how to curl your hair using no-heat flexi rods.  For those who don’t know, Flexi Rods are a great way to curl your hair while preventing heat damage!!  Also, Flexi rods are one of the best ways to curl your hair if you have ethnic or extremely coarse and dry hair.

You will need:

  1. 1 pack of 3/4″ rollers from Sally Beauty
  2. Hair Clip
  3. Mousse or wrapping lotion
  4. Wax pomade
  5. 10 minutes of prep time – 2 hours total

Always make sure you’re wrapping the hair *over* the rod, and not under.  This will achieve the same effect as curling *away* from the face.  In some of the videos I have seen, the girls will wrap their hair before they go to sleep, sleep on it, and then take it out in the morning.  I haven’t tried this, but I know waiting two hours makes it look good initially, but it will quickly fall.  I’m writing this blog about 6 hours after I initially took my hair down, and it’s still somewhat curly, but it’s more of a ‘beachy’ curly than super curly.  Perhaps this can be changed if I wrapped my hair when it was slightly damp, or tried another product.  I am super happy with the end result, but do wish it would hold its curl a bit longer.  Either way, it looks pretty and uses no heat!!

Hair Curling 101

This week I made a tutorial video of how I curl my hair. Many people ask me how I curl my hair, and to be honest it has taken me awhile to nail down the technique that I now use. Not because it is difficult, or special, but that before I kept ending up with “Shirley Temple” hair (Curling tight spirals, curling the ends, and using tons of hairspray). I couldn’t figure out how to get it to look effortless and glamorous at the same time, but I think I have finally gotten it down to a science. I spent approximately a half an hour this time, but this is for everyday hair, which is a little more messy. For a night event, I would probably spend a little more time making sure the curls were tighter.

You will need:
1. 1″ Curling Iron
2. Hair clip
3. Curl Setting Spray
4. Wax Pomade
5. 25 minutes (this is how long it takes me, with long, thick and coarse hair – it may vary)

 

Some random thoughts – I keep stressing to curl away from your face. It’s my personal pet peeve… when you curl towards your face it makes you look about 5 years old, and it also lays weird. I also emphasize not curling the ends. I know with certain curling wands you can curl the ends and it won’t look like Shirley Temple hair, but I prefer not to curl them because I like the look, and I think it is healthier and less damaging on my hair ends. Also, this look works best with layered hair. My hair has a lot of layers, which contributes to the bombshell “Kim Kardashian” or if you despise her, Victoria’s Secret Angel look. If your hair is one layer, it may look different, but it’s still a good look. This works with short hair too. Last year I curled my hair, and I had nose/chin length layers, and I think it turned out great. Here is an example of shorter layers using the same curling technique:

If you have curly hair, I would recommend either straightening it while blow-drying with a large bristle brush or running a straightener through it quickly – don’t worry about getting it bone straight. If you have shorter hair I would also recommend using a 3/4″ barrel, but watch that you don’t get too curly – the ending look is kinda messy, effortless, and glamorous. Enjoy!

Do You “Poo”?

I have a confession to make.  I haven’t used shampoo in a month.  And I may never use it again in my life.  Call me a hippie, I have found that not using shampoo has been much more healthy and beneficial for my hair routine.  My hair is cleaner than it ever was when I used shampoo, and I may shortly discontinue using conditioner as well.  Instead, I have been using Baking Soda and Apple Cider Vinegar – separately, of course.  I don’t want my head to look like a second grade volcano experiment!

I am pretty particular about my hair.  If you ask me about my hair routine, I will tell you that I only wash my hair about every 5-7 days; that I try not to use straighteners/curlers on a regular basis (more than once or twice a week); and I swear by deep conditioners and hair masks.  This seemed like the perfect experiment to see if it would really improve the health of my hair.  After being warned by my husband that my hair would fall out and I would go bald, I took the plunge.

There are many reasons to not use shampoo.  I will not go in depth because you can find a million reasons by doing a simple Google search, but here are a few of my favorites:

  1. It’s cheap, and quality, all-natural organic shampoos are expensive
  2. It’s toxic-free.  Chemicals in shampoo can irritate and dry out your scalp and hair, and can be hazardous to your health. 
  3. Your body produces oil naturally to condition your hair and keep it healthy.  These oils protect your hair, keeping it soft and strong.  Using shampoo upsets the natural balance and either 1) suppresses your natural oil production, resulting in dry, damaged hair that breaks easily or 2) causes you to produce more oil than necessary to compensate for the imbalance. 
  4. Most shampoos contain mineral oil, which is byproduct when gasoline is distilled from crude oil. It’s added to shampoo (along with hundreds of other products) to thickly coat the strands, giving hair an artificial shine. And since it can’t absorb into skin, like the other ingredients, it acts as a barrier on our scalp, preventing oil from being released — thus requiring more shampoo to strip away the grease. This is why the more shampoo you use, the more you need.  In the long run, coating your hair with mineral oil makes it weaker, and more prone to damage.
  5. It’s a vicious cycle.  Because shampoo is harsh enough to strip the natural oils from your hair, you need something to replenish them. So, conditioner was born. You need to wash your hair every day not because it gets dirty, but because the oils from the conditioner don’t last and need to be replenished. And because of shampoo and conditioner breaking down your hair and making it frizzy, you must use more unnatural and chemical products to keep your hair styled, strong and workable.  This is especially true for those with naturally curly or coarse hair.  There are hundreds of websites that advocate using Baking Soda/Apple Cider Vinegar as a shampoo/conditioner replacement as it makes curly hair much more healthy, and less frizzy. 

So, for the last month I have been using baking soda as a shampoo substitute, and apple cider vinegar as a conditioner substitute.  Since I am still paranoid about split ends and dry hair, especially in winter, I have been doing a hair mask once a week with Joico K-Pak deep conditioner.  However, I have seen hair masks using avocado, honey and olive oil, so I may try that in the near future and report on my results.

Why baking soda? Well, baking soda is the gentlest and weakest alkali of sodium compounds, it would take using a lot to do damage to your skin or hair. It has a lot of useful properties like deodorizing, leavening (for baking), whitening, polishing and clarifying. You only need a little bit, regardless of what you’re using it for. Just like with vinegar, a little goes a long way. Plain water can remove almost all the dirt you can get in your hair, but a little baking soda can not only remove the rest, but also take care of the build-up from hair products, shampoos and anything else you might pick up. Some people find that over time, using baking soda in their hair will lighten the color – although most agree that if this happens you’re using it too much, and perhaps not using enough ACV. Once or twice a week is fine, even less if your hair is in very good condition or easy to manage.

Why apple cider vinegar? Apple cider vinegar is a mild acidic that counteracts the baking soda.  The natural pH of your hair, skin and nails is 4.5-5.5 on a scale of 0-14.  Shampoos and soaps are more alkaline in nature, falling above the “neutral” 7 marker.  The pH of baking soda is also more alkaline, falling around 8.2.  This is where the apple cider vinegar comes in.  It is more acidic, and has a pH of 4.5, which acts to not only close your cuticle but also detangle your hair follicles and bring your hair back to its natural pH balance.  When used on your scalp, it helps promote circulation, acts as a natural antiseptic, and dissolves excessive fatty deposits and reduces scaling or peeling of the skin. As for use on hair, it helps to clarify, detangle, balances hair’s pH level and seals the cuticles. Some people are bothered by the smell, but be assured that the smell should dissipate within a moment or two of rinsing. If it doesn’t, you’re using too much in your solution!

STEP 1: BAKING SODA

  1. The standard amount is one tablespoon of baking soda to one cup of water.  I have been using a couple of tablespoons since I have longer, thick hair and put it in a protein shake bottle, and fill it to the top with water.  Those with curly or thicker hair might need a bit more baking soda, and those with thin or fine hair might need less. Experiment, and see what works for you.
  2. When you get in the shower, fill the rest of the cup with water and stir until the baking soda is dissolved. You should have some cloudy water at this point. If the mixture feels gritty or pasty, either add more water or use less baking soda. Now apply the mixture to your hair.
  3. In order to stimulate blood flow, clean your pores and get off built up grime, use your fingertips to scrub your scalp. Start by making a circle on the top of your head in the area you’d wear a crown. Focus on the back of this circle to begin with. Next, fill in the circle. This is where your part will be; grease here affects the way your hair looks. Trace while still scrubbing with your fingertips around the bottom edge of the circle. Keep making scrubbing circles underneath each one, drawing lines in circles around your head. Lastly, scrub the back of your skull and your temples/sideburns. This will result in less grease and more growth. After doing this, your scalp will feel alive. Many women swear their hair grows faster after a visit to the salon — it does, and this massage method is why.
  4. It won’t lather like shampoo, but it does give your hair a distinct “smooth” feeling when it’s properly distributed. Once you’ve rubbed it around a bit, you should be ready to rinse. When you are completely rinsed you are ready to condition.

STEP 2: APPLE CIDER VINEGAR 

Next, pour about 2 tablespoons of apple cider vinegar into a cup and add water. After you rinse the baking soda out, pour the apple cider vinegar over the crown, but focus  on the ends of your hair, let it sit for a minute and then rinse it out. That’s all there is to it!  Like I said, I still do a hair mask once a week, and this is with a deep conditioner.  I may try an all natural one soon, but I am cheap and want to use up what I have before I attempt it!

Here are the changes after just doing the BS/V routine for a month.  I have noticed that my hair lays nicer, I don’t have as many flyaways, and it is WAY SHINIER.  Even my mom noticed that it was shinier than when she had last seen it.  The before picture was taken in July, when I was still using shampoo, straightening my hair and using pomade.  The after picture was just this last weekend, after a month of using baking soda/vinegar, straightening my hair and using a little bit of pomade.  You can see where my flyaways in the before picture are way better in the after picture. I can also tell that my ends are MUCH healthier.  I don’t get a lot of split ends, but recently I have been getting split ends, and after going shampoo-free I am noticing that they are much better.  

ANY WEIRD SIDE EFFECTS??

You might have a transition period that lasts from a few weeks to a few months, where your hair reacts with excess oil to the lack of shampoo. This is perfectly normal. It’s used to having its oils stripped, so it might take time for the oil to stop producing so heavily in protest.  I haven’t noticed a huge increase in oil, but the good thing is that even if your hair gets really oily, washing it with BS/V will not damage it like overshampooing.

If you find that your hair is too oily (after the transition period), try using less vinegar, or not using it all together. Some people also use lemon juice instead of vinegar as their acidic clarifier.

If your hair feels too dry, use less baking soda, or try using honey instead of vinegar.

I don’t need anything else for my hair. I still use just a little bit of wax pomade on my bangs, but my hair is amazingly pliable, and can hold styles without my needing to do much of anything.  I also want to add that during the winter months I struggle with some “snowflakes” here and there, but since using this method I haven’t had any dandruff, and my scalp hasn’t itched a bit!

A Final Note on Curly hair: There are many reasons to eschew typical shampoo if you have naturally curly or wavy hair. As well going shampoo-free can give straight hair back its natural fullness and body, and maybe even a wavy texture that was being shampooed out. Most shampoos contain harsh, drying sulfates that are extremely damaging for curly hair (ammonium laureth sulfate, ammonium lauryl sulfate, sodium laureth sulfate, sodium lauryl sulfate, etc.). They are often foaming agents that make curly hair frizzy and uncooperative. Using conditioner, or another replacement such as baking soda in place of shampoo will cleanse the hair just as effectively without stripping it of moisture.

seasonal depression? here, try this!


Unless you live in the land of perpetual sun, you probably have two makeup shades for foundation and powder:  beautiful, summery tan, and ghostly, wintery white.  While this not only depresses me when I have to change over to my lighter winter color, it is also irritating because I have multiple shades of powder just laying around taunting me that their shelf life will expire before temperatures rise above freezing.

And then it hit me one cold, wintery day: Why not use both colors, and use the darker color to contour?  This is the perfect solution to using both shades of makeup, and while it won’t keep the cold away, it is bound to heat up your makeup routine.

I started using my lighter winter color on my forehead, bridge of my nose, cheekbones and chin, and using my darker summer color on my forehead right by the hairline and my temples, on the hollows of my cheeks and on the sides of my nose.

The finished product looks much better than using one color, by the way.  Here is an example of good contouring.  It is subtle, but very polished looking.

And if you are a one color offender like I was, please stop.  I always wondered why I looked like I threw a bag of flour on my face before leaving the house – it was because I didn’t contour.  If you only use one color on your face people will either think you are Casper, or Snooki.  Or these two.

The good news is, contouring with two colors doesn’t take any less time than using one color, so it’s not high maintenance, but the end result looks like it.

start with the hair.

If you don’t have a lot of time to get ready, do your hair.  It’s the most obvious.  You could be makeup free, but if you do your hair people will think you spent time on yourself.

philosophy

My personal philosophy aka “the lazy girl’s guide to getting ready” aka the theory of diminishing returns:

How little can I do and still look like I spent time on myself? 

Although it makes me sound like a bum, the emphasis is “LOOK LIKE” I spent time on myself.  To me, there is a huge visible difference between spending 5 minutes and 15 minutes on makeup.  But spending 15 minutes on makeup is only marginally less obvious than spending an hour.  The trick involves buying quality and professional brushes, which increases the amount of color that is put on your face and decreases the amount of time you spend getting ready.  It also involves buying professional hairstyling equipment and quality shampoo and conditioner so that you have healthy hair, which equals less time spending styling your hair and more time WHIPPING YO HAIR BACK AND FORTH!!!

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